ASAKE OKIN

Have you ever seen employees oppressed the employers?  A country/state where you can't have a peaceful protest without armed forces  interference. A president can call elected people "thugs" but when they respond they are invited by SSS. How can you count yourself "lucky" based on other people's misfortune? On January 1st 2012 at about 3pm, I read on twitter that fuel subsidy has been removed meaning Nigerians have to buy petrol at a "premium rate". I say Premium rate because we are an oil producing country, and we are buying petrol at about $1 for a country where many live below a dollar. Like others, I took social network sites and started ranting.  You can see how fuel increase will affect the average Nigerian. What are the pros and cons of oil subsidy? A friend said Nigerians should stop complaining and that we should think deep.  See conversation below "ÀSÀKÉ-Ọ̀KÍN: which deep ÀSÀKÉ-Ọ̀KÍN: in a corrupt country Teejay: It wil...

I was supposed to post this on 31st but my internet wasn’t connecting I have been working on single parent, diary of a Lagos learner and Jobless Lagosian. Guess bloggers also experience blogger(writer)'s block. My last post in 2011 is going to have a mix of everything. I started 2011 with high hopes, went through the ups and downs, met wonderful people, lost a friend I was just getting to know, finished NYSC, learnt a lot in my place of primary assignment, kept in touch with my camp friends, may the souls of all the fallen heroes rest in peace, we lost a number of corp members to election violence. 2 introduction ceremonies for my cousins, 1 marriage, new baby... Am thankful for this year. Sometimes, we think there is nothing to be thankful for because we don’t have spouses, cars, kids, the list goes on and on.. Think about this, there's a person who woke up yesterday and discovered his entire family has been wiped out by Boko Haram, another person couldn't sleep b...

PING PING PING Asake, is your blog mainly about relationships. The truth is I don't know. My next 2 post wouldn't be about relationship. I am not an expert in that affect of life, trying to learn myself. During my internship, one of the units in my department gave a talk- "Leveraging on social network". For an organisation, the pros were more than the cons. LinkedIn, facebook, twitter etc.. I learnt something new, pod-cast. Podcast is a social media tool used to share media files...it can be used within organization for the purpose of share-learning... My eldest sister was picking a gift for her husband when she said he will be so surprise am getting him this, we haven't spoken to each other in days. When people are around we act normal and when they are gone we simply don't talk. When we quarrel with our boyfriends we are so quick to update our status. Some guys do the same. I asked a friend, what's sup with your status and she said " he...

Just on my way to observe one f the pillars of life, I saw people of various color, figure, shape, some with smile others without, people wearing various kind of attire, some don’t look as if they are going where am headed but someone else might have thought the same about me. As I entered the building I was headed, people who were not dressed for the occasion brought out other attires and in no time, they were perfectly dressed for the occasion. Our thought before performing or sometimes during performing ablution might be different but we all perform ablution. Finally, I entered the female section of Jamia mosque and I was amazed at what I saw. Women, some physically challenged, some needed a chair to be able to observe this pillar f life comfortably. I also noticed some female only stood outside to listen to the lectures. I looked around and finally got a place to say my nafila, after my nafila, I wondered what people might have thought of me while entering the mos...

''Everyone has an idea of the qualities they want in a partner. That's not wrong but it could be faulted if they are farfetched and selfish" anonymous Remember that time you fell in love. I mean true love... That one person you still think of daily, that one person that made makes you feel like the world  was is yours. That person you saw see in your future. That person that made akes myour world makes sense... :-) remember... Reflect on how you fell for him/her.  He probably said something or did something that made you know  he is the one or did nothing or annoyed you. You just knew deep down "that's the one" at that moment, you didn't care if the one is Black or White; Ibo or Yoruba; Muslim or Christian; Employed or Unemployed; sane or insane; rich or poor; Married or Single... Here am talking about true love...  Have you ever described the perfect guy/girl? I know we (girls) did that when we were younger. If yes, have you ever...

We are not perfect. Our society tells us women naturally nag. You don't have to nag, instead discuss your insecurities or issues with him calmly. When he's mad about something or someone don't fuel the fire, try to kill the fire, calm him down, he will be able to make rational decision. Don't be too quick to talk after or during a misunderstanding, think twice before you do. A friend once told me, when he annoys me I read the Quran, after few chapters, I am calm then I talk it over with him. Learn from my friend, her relationship is over a decade. My mom keeps telling me, in Yorubaland, the younger one should always apologize to the elder one even if the younger one is right. Most ladies are in a relationship where the guy is older. Start viewing him as your elder one in terms of misunderstand.. Don't take him for granted. You might kill his self esteem or ginger is ego. When you constantly take him for granted, One day he ll lose the respect he has fo...