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“Haba!, Asake, why do we do this? I am not a diva but I am #Teamwindowseat and only a matter of life or death can make me switch seats. Sometimes last year, I took a 16hours flight and 10 minutes into it, the lady sitting next to me in the middle seat asked if I could swap seats with her husband who was also sitting in the middle seat but on the next row. Sadly, I turned down her request. I felt bad throughout the flight that I separated a couple as the lady was constantly turning back. Asake, I have changed flight before because there was no window seat available. Window seats are my comfort zone” KB narrated. Just like KB, I am also #Teamwindowseat. Several weeks ago, I had the opportunity of flying and on getting to my window seat, it was already occupied. A man with his kids were sitting on my row and upon informing him his daughter was sitting on my seat, he told me to speak with the airhostess who informed me he gave my seat out then pointed to a middle seat with no apol

Today’s marriages sometimes seem like for better for stay, for worse for go, till sex, cash and battering do you apart. Every 7days, you are constantly reminded that your relationship status is unmarried. Another weekend is around the corner; don’t get overwhelmed with the HML updates. Sometimes, I feel like I am the only unmarried person around. Asake, when are you getting married? Is there a new Bobo? Asake, why are you hiding him? Asake, you better lower that your standards. The pressure to settle down has been immense and trust mother to keep including it in her prayer points. “I want to settle down after University” Lucy told her boyfriend but he asked her to give him 5years when he would have raised enough money for their wedding ceremony and for starting a family. His target is $70,000 but he currently earns approximately $1000 per month in Nigerian Naira. Haba how persin go dey plan for $70,000 wedding when e no fit even afford car. “Asake, I love this girl, she i

Another calendar year just went by, it is possible you experienced some ups and downs; take the lessons and move on with life. For lots of people, a new year gives an opportunity to start on a clean sheet; it is not about starting over again, it is about improving your life. I learnt something last year, about goal setting, write down all the roles you play in life and try as much as possible to put in goals that will have an impact on those roles. Example of roles I play – a daughter, a sister, an aunt, an employee, a best friend,   a blogger and an amateur photographer-   it is difficult to set goals for all the roles you play so pick   3 or 4 most important ones and work on it per quarter or biannually. Goals do not have to be rocket science- it can be as simple as “improve communication with my spouse” by spending at least 10 minutes a day listening to him speak about his day (cheeky abi ) 2015 is an election year in Nigeria, for those who will be participating, remember to do