Yaay!! My first personal post of 2016 – Yes, I usually don’t write about myself.
Two weeks ago, I realized I graduated 6 years ago. 6years of absolute change and transformation. When I was leaving University and relocating back home - I had only two goals – two goals I am yet to achieve. Looking back at the goals, I feel if I had achieved them, I wouldn’t be the better version of myself today; hence, I am very thankful
My life has taught me not to judge people by their “yesterday” and to give them the benefit of a doubt even if they hurt* you because if anyone had judged me by my very subtle past, the person is probably reading the 5th edition of a book that now has a 15th edition.
I remember reading a pre-wedding story on Bellanaija where the husband stated is fiancée used to be a party hopper and he was not that kind of guy so they went separate ways. Years later when he met her, she was a transformed lady and they are getting married. What if he never gave her a second chance?
I also remember the story about a guy who used to have sugar mummies in University and did not know whether or not to mention his past to his bride to be. Four years after marriage with a second baby on the way, his wife still thanks my friend for introducing them. The peace of mind and love in her home cannot be compared with any of the relationship she has experienced including her parents own – who are your regular upright prayer point couple.
To be honest, I can go on and on about stories on how people have changed and how second chance should be given.
I saw this quote on my friend’s profile –“When someone treats you like an option, help them narrow their choices by removing yourself from the equation” I remember replying “When you have the opportunity, treat them way better but try as much as possible not to be available to them again” – (maybe I should let go of the “again”, if they come back willingly – give them a second chance, if they mess up again – then let go)
Till next time, remember age does not equal maturity, when life happens, we are forced to grow up faster than others. You might have met someone in their immature stage, they probably have grown up now – give them a second chance.
*Hurt: excludes hurt in an abusive manner. Please, if someone is abusing you – physically, sexually, emotionally – get yourself to a safe haven then get counselling.
Lẹẹkansi is a Yoruba word that means “again", "try again", "one more time" and maybe "Second chance”
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