Nowadays, some husbands and wives spend equal amount of time at work leaving their kids in care of nanny or granny. Food is usually prepared during the weekends, dished in the freezer and microwaved on need basis.
One of my fasting days, I got home extremely tired. Since I was fasting I decided to pick my lunch from the canteen with the intention of using it as dinner. While speaking with my friend on the phone, he asked what I planned fasting with the next day and my response was Garri or water. He laughed and suggested I used noodles. I told him I didn't like the flavour I had at home. Go and buy another flavour" he suggested. I am too tired to stand up, I said.
"What if you were married and your husband wanted dinner tonight nko?" He asked. And I responded “I will tell him I am too tired tonight". He got so angry he ended the call.
Asake, are you sure you want to marry a Nigerian man? "a colleague asked" But he has to be considerate nah, I work about 8hours a day, I will drive for about 2hours, get home take care of the kids, cook and still do wifely duties, I be machine" I asked him.. He laughed and said your job is to do all those, it is now left for your husband to be considerate.. It is not in your place to dictate what you want. You are a Yoruba girl and I am sure your religion also teaches total submission to your husband. He added.
Should we revert to the woman civil service days ; have flexible working hours for women ; just ask us to stay at home( stay at home ke, after all the millions our parents spent sending us to school) or just go back to what our religion books preaches?
Just as I was wrapping up this post, I got this from my friend Oyin(HML in advance :-) make sure your boo reads this o)
"In a family where the husband earns #150,000 every month, and the wife earns #1million every month and they both work in d same company while their kids are lacking parental care and love. Who amongst them should resign to take care of the kids?" You be the judge.
Till next time, be considerate to your wife or married subordinate...
*kazi means job
*nani- means who or whose