Ise abi alafia 2.0

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As I waited for my turn at the paying till I couldn’t help but hear everything the man behind me was saying on the phone. “Yes, I understand he is ill and on admission, but this update cannot wait. Do you know if he has his laptop with him at the hospital?  He’s one of your best subordinates, those figures should be top of mind, I do not mind an estimate at this time”. He kept talking while I wheeled my shopping cart out of the supermarket.

As I was about to judge him, I wondered if I have ever done the same. If there were times, I should have been more compassionate.

 

Hey, I am not feeling too well. I spoke with the doctor and she recommended some medications. Once the pain subsides, I will log in and attend to important tasks. As I laid in tears, praying for the pain to go away I could not help but think about the meetings I have missed and all the updates I promised to share before COB.

 As I was about to judge myself, I wondered what I could have done better to prevent the pain.

 A colleague once said, if you work within a team and based on your organization’s information policy, other team members are permitted to have information, please share it with them as this can make the work better on days you are unavoidable absent.

I haven’t figured out how to stop feeling guilty on my sick days so let me throw it out there, how do you mentally handle being away from work when you are indisposed?

 

Till next time, remember to also be compassionate to yourself.

  • Ise means work
  • abi means or
  • alafia can be loosely translated as wellbeing or good health
  • COB - Close of business

 This post was edited by Dolapo Ajayi

 

You can read the first ise or alafia here

 

 

 

Comments

  1. UnknownSeptember 27, 2020 at 9:06 AM

    Nice piece sis...weldone!!!

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  2. AnonymousSeptember 30, 2020 at 3:51 PM

    When I initially started work, I used to feel guilty when ill or when I had to stay home because my kids were ill. But something happened that completely changed that.

    A colleague of mine missed some days because her dog was ill as she had to stay home to attend to him and take him the vet...it didn't happen once or twice. My manager was very ok with that and asked that we empathise with her.

    You know oyibo now....in my mind I was like "dog?" Hmmmmmm

    That got me thinking and I asked myself "why do I have to feel guilty when sick or when my kids are sick" while someone is takings days off because of her dog. And that did it for me...

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  3. AnonymousDecember 22, 2020 at 12:12 AM

    Do you feel the over compensate mentality too?

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  4. UnknownJune 2, 2021 at 3:49 PM

    Ma sha Allah

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